How To Overcome Anxiety In The Bedroom

Okay here’s the scene: Several months into the relationship and you and your girl are on a weekend getaway. You had great dinner and night out at the resort, you are back at the hotel and about halfway through the movie, she makes the first move.

Now you a true playa but at the same time, you are petrified about your next move. Why? Because you already know that each move you make from here is getting you closer to the promised land [Insert J. Cole Wet Dreamz here].

That’s a good thing right? Wrong – because you horrified by the realization that your performance is wack.

The Memo For Modern Men

Many men have experienced performance anxiety at some point in their lives. Perhaps you have a new love interest and you’re nervous about not being up to her standards in the bedroom.

Or it could be a special occasion for your better half and you set high expectations for yourself. Whatever the case, it’s perfectly normal to feel like this.

However, if it occurs frequently, it might start to become an issue as it affects our quality of life, so here’s the memo.

There are a few ways to overcome anxiety in the bedroom. If you’re going through it, we recommend trying the five we have listed below.

Love Your Body

Not every man has six-pack abs and a killer body. Most of us are packing a little too much weight in the wrong places. We might also worry that we aren’t big enough down there.

If we feel insecure about this, we might worry about our partner not finding us attractive and this, in turn, can lead to low confidence in the bedroom.

To overcome this, it’s important to love your body.

A good way of doing it is to look at yourself, take note of the things you like, and repeat the process every day. This will help you to see yourself in a more positive light.

Be Imperfect

A lot of times, we try to be perfect in the bedroom. If it’s a new partner or a special occasion, especially, we can try to make it as perfect as possible.

But some men set the bar way too high. Our definition of perfect might be doing things only a porn star is capable of, yet we could see anything less as not being good enough. This kind of pressure can easily lead to anxiety and set us up for failure.

At the end of the day, we have to realize that we’re only human. We don’t have to be sex gods to have a good time.

Say What You Feel

You could be feeling especially anxious and might be constantly worried that you won’t measure up to your partner when it matters. Well, one way to overcome that is to talk about it.

Sharing your concerns will undoubtedly take courage, and you might feel a bit awkward revealing something that personal. However, your partner will most likely let you know that it’s not such a big deal.

They might even help you through it, either verbally or through their actions. This way, even if the worst happens, your partner will understand.

Try To Be Different

For a lot of people, bedroom matters usually follow a linear path. This starts with making out, progresses to oral, goes to penetration, and then ends when both of you climax.

This doesn’t always have to be the case. You can do it how you’ve always done it, switch things up, or even try something new. Nothing is set in stone.

Trying something different is always a good starting point.

You can also try to focus more on your partner than yourself. This way, however you perform, she will still be satisfied.

Work Out

For a lot of men, performance anxiety comes from how you perceive your looks. If you just feel too insecure about it, you can always change it to what you want. No matter how old you are, it’s never too late to get in shape.

You don’t even need a chiseled figure. Just seeing progress will almost certainly help you love how you look and make you feel more confident in yourself.

It can also improve the performance of “all” your muscles since it improves blood circulation throughout your body.

What are some of the ways you have overcome anxiety in the bedroom? Comment below.