As you sit there, heart pounding, trying to figure out how to get the attention of that sista you’ve had your eye on for a while.
How do you get her to notice you?
You are interested in her but on the flip side: do you have what it takes to draw her to you because high-value men don’t hunt, they attract.
Disclaimer: If you are looking for a hot pick-up line, sorry fellas, swipe left. Instead, we advocate bettering yourself and improving your life holistically in order to attract the right person.
Look at it this way, here’s the memo on what they’re not telling you.
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The Memo For Modern Men
Dating is interpersonal marketing. Just like in marketing, there are two broad ways to go about it: You can chase girls – outbound marketing – or, you can make them chase you – the dating equivalent of inbound marketing.
If you’ve experienced rejection multiple times throughout your life, you’re in for a treat. This is the answer. As you will quickly discover, ‘getting a hot girl’ is as straightforward as creating a strong inbound marketing campaign. Only this time, the product you’re marketing is you.
Aesthetics, success, respect
To craft a foolproof strategy, you need to break down what makes a man attractive to its most basic, actionable ingredients: Aesthetics, career success, social savviness and respect.
If you have all four, you’re irresistible, a real-life James Bond. A good-looking, financially secure man who does well socially can attract nearly every girl he wants. Even better? He doesn’t even have to try, as they usually come looking all by themselves.
Frankly, it pays to invest in all three aspects of your life. Now, just like in real inbound campaigns, your efforts won’t miraculously succeed overnight.
Keep working on yourself
Every personal record you hit inside the gym, every professional promotion you get, and every single fun event you attend is like producing another piece of content.
You’re sending out signals. You’re throwing nets to catch fish. Sometimes content goes viral; sometimes it doesn’t stick. The same is true of inbound dating. Give it time, and keep working on yourself.
Put simply, the success of your campaign corresponds to how many women get hooked on your new marketing strategy.
Send the right signals
They’re not your end goal, but rather lagging indicators of your success. If you shift your focus from chasing girls to sending out the right signals and if you stop obsessing over delivering the right pick-up line and improve your life holistically, you will undoubtedly attract plenty of women.
Today there’s plenty of self-improvement content readily available. You can find workout programs and special diets through a simple google search. Likewise, improving your career prospects and building up your social network.
Where most people fail is applying it. But you won’t. Right? Here’s how you do it: You set small, attainable goals and then you commit to them as if a gun hangs above your head. These goals may be as simple as completing a training course twice a year.
Or, you may prefer to bond with your social group further and improve your social skills. In all cases, do your due diligence, and before you know it, you’ll be living a much more rewarding life.
Final thoughts:
The bottom line is simple: So long as you organize yourself around improving your aesthetics, your career, and your social skill set, you will get a return on your investment with women.
Build a rock-solid strategy, execute it consistently and your value as a man will skyrocket. It’s hard, but it pays better than any cheesy pick-up line ever will.
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